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    Welcome to Self Harm

    Post by Maverick on Thu Jun 03, 2010 10:07 am

    Welcome To Cutting And Self Harm

    This forum is for your needs in any relation to do with cutting or any other form of self harm. Also, if you have any questions about what self harm is or how to deal with it, please feel free to make a thread or PM a moderator.

    So what do I do instead?
    Many people try substitute activities as described above and report that sometimes they work, sometimes not. One way to increase the chances of a distraction/substitution helping calm the urge to harm is to match what you do to how you are feeling at the moment.

    First, take a few moments and look behind the urge. What are you feeling? Are you angry? Frustrated? Restless? Sad? Craving the feeling of SI? Depersonalized and unreal or numb? Unfocused?

    Next, match the activity to the feeling. A few examples:

    angry, frustrated, restless
    Try something physical and violent, something not directed at a living thing:

    * Slash an empty plastic soda bottle or a piece of heavy cardboard or an old shirt or sock.
    Make a soft cloth doll to represent the things you are angry at. Cut and tear it instead of yourself.
    Flatten aluminum cans for recycling, seeing how fast you can go.
    Hit a punching bag.
    Use a pillow to hit a wall, pillow-fight style.
    Rip up an old newspaper or phone book.
    On a sketch or photo of yourself, mark in red ink what you want to do. Cut and tear the picture.
    Make Play-Doh or Sculpey or other clay models and cut or smash them.
    Throw ice into the bathtub or against a brick wall hard enough to shatter it.
    Break sticks.
    I've found that these things work even better if I rant at the thing I am cutting/tearing/hitting. I start out slowly, explaining why I am hurt and angry, but sometimes end up swearing and crying and yelling. It helps a lot to vent like that.
    Crank up the music and dance.
    Clean your room (or your whole house).
    Go for a walk/jog/run.
    Stomp around in heavy shoes.
    Play handball or tennis.

    sad, soft, melancholy, depressed, unhappy

    * Do something slow and soothing, like taking a hot bath with bath oil or bubbles, curling up under a comforter with hot cocoa and a good book, babying yourself somehow. Do whatever makes you feel taken care of and comforted. Light sweet-smelling incense. Listen to soothing music. Smooth nice body lotion into the parts or yourself you want to hurt. Call a friend and just talk about things that you like. Make a tray of special treats and tuck yourself into bed with it and watch TV or read. Visit a friend.

    craving sensation, feeling depersonalized, dissociating, feeling unreal
    Do something that creates a sharp physical sensation:

    * Squeeze ice hard (this really hurts). (Note: putting ice on a spot you want to burn gives you a strong painful sensation and leaves a red mark afterward, kind of like burning would.)
    Put a finger into a frozen food (like ice cream) for a minute.
    Bite into a hot pepper or chew a piece of ginger root.
    Rub liniment under your nose.
    Slap a tabletop hard.
    Snap your wrist with a rubber band.
    Take a cold bath.
    Stomp your feet on the ground.
    Focus on how it feels to breathe. Notice the way your chest and stomach move with each breath.
    [NOTE: Some people report that being online while dissociating increases their sense of unreality; be cautious about logging on in a dissociative state until you know how it affects you.]

    wanting focus

    * Do a task (a computer game like tetris or minesweeper, writing a computer program, needlework, etc) that is exacting and requires focus and concentration.
    Eat a raisin mindfully. Pick it up, noticing how it feels in your hand. Look at it carefully; see the asymmetries and think about the changes the grape went through. Roll the raisin in your fingers and notice the texture; try to describe it. Bring the raisin up to your mouth, paying attention to how it feels to move your hand that way. Smell the raisin; what does it remind you of? How does a raisin smell? Notice that you're beginning to salivate, and see how that feels. Open your mouth and put the raisin in, taking time to think about how the raisin feels to your tongue. Chew slowly, noticing how the texture and even the taste of the raisin change as you chew it. Are there little seeds or stems? How is the inside different from the outside? Finally, swallow.
    Choose an object in the room. Examine it carefully and then write as detailed a description of it as you can. Include everything: size, weight, texture, shape, color, possible uses, feel, etc.
    Choose a random object, like a paper clip, and try to list 30 different uses for it.
    Pick a subject and research it on the web.
    Try some of the games and distractions at digibeet's page; she's assembled a lot of distractions.

    wanting to see blood

    * Draw on yourself with a red felt-tip pen.
    Take a small bottle of liquid red food coloring and warm it slightly by dropping it into a cup of hot water for a few minutes. Uncap the bottle and press its tip against the place you want to cut. Draw the bottle in a cutting motion while squeezing it slightly to let the food color trickle out.
    Draw on the areas you want to cut using ice that you've made by dropping six or seven drops of red food color into each of the ice-cube tray wells.
    Paint yourself with red tempera paint.

    wanting to see scars or pick scabs

    * Get a henna tattoo kit. You put the henna on as a paste and leave it overnight; the next day you can pick it off as you would a scab and it leaves an orange-red mark behind.
    Another thing that helps sometimes is the fifteen-minute game. Tell yourself that if you still want to harm yourself in 15 minutes, you can. When the time is up, see if you can go another 15. I've been able to get through a whole night that way before.

    Here are some distractions or things to keep your mind off of your Self Harm.

    1. Exercise - running etc.
    2. Putting on fake tattoos
    3. Drawing on yourself in red marker (make sure it's washable!)
    4. Scribbling on sheets an sheets of paper
    5. Writing (poetry, stories, journal, etc.)
    6. Cuddling with a stuffed toy
    7. Being with other people
    8. Watching a favorite TV show (preferably a comedy)
    9. Posting on web boards, and answering others' posts
    10. Thinking about how I DON'T want scars for the summer
    11. Painting your nails
    12. Going to see a movie
    13. Eating something ridiculously sweet (or any favorite food)
    14. Doing school work
    15. Surf the net
    16. Go into chat rooms to talk
    17. Call a friend and ask for company
    18. Playing a musical instrument
    19. Singing
    20. Looking up at the sky (night is especially beautiful)
    21. Making your own list of things to do instead of SI
    22. Punching a punching bad (with gloves on)
    23. Snapping a rubber band on your wrist (or hair band)
    24. Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut
    25. Mix warm water and red food coloring, and put in on your skin (feels and looks like blood)
    26. Letting yourself cry (can be very difficult for some)
    27. Sleep (only if you are tired)
    28. A hot shower, or relaxing bath (no razors in the tub, though)
    29. Play with a pet
    30. Detangling yarn or necklaces
    31. Re-organizing your room
    32. Cleaning (hmmm...I very rarely use this one!)
    33. Having a pillow fight with the wall (yes, neighbors may think you are crazy, but that's OK)
    34. Knitting or sewing
    35. Reading a good book
    36. Dressing up very glamorous (make sure no one can walk in on you, though)
    37. Coloring your hair
    38. Listening to music (not angry music though-that can trigger)
    39. Watching a candle burn (no playing with the flames!)
    40. Finding someone else you can help out
    41. Meditate
    42. Watching a scary (but not bloody) movie.
    43. Work on a website
    44. Have a vivid fantasy love affair with a celebrity
    45. Go somewhere very public
    46. Bake cookies
    47. Alphabetize your CDs
    48. Chewing leather (especially if you SI by biting)
    49. Buy a home Henna tattoo kit (peels off the next day-similar to skin picking)
    50. Painting or drawing
    51. Ripping paper into itty-bitty pieces
    52. Hugs-(this one is very nice...)
    53. Writing letters or email
    54. Talk to yourself (or if that feels weird, buy a small tape recorder-I then feel like someone is listening)
    55. Stroke nice fabrics
    56. Hug a pillow
    57. Hyper focus on something like a rock, hand, etc.
    58. Fingerprint
    59. Scream real loud (I LOVE this one-just make sure no one is home)
    60. Dance
    61. Make hot chocolate (mmmmm....)
    62. pop bubble wrap
    63. play with modeling clay or Play-Dough
    64. count to one hundred
    65. Build a pillow fort
    66. pop balloons
    67. Hug yourself
    68. Shoot hoops, hit a volleyball against the wall etc.
    69. Reading things in a different language
    70) Going for a nice, long drive
    71) Complete something you've been putting off
    72) Drinking absurd amounts of tea
    73) Breaking plastic plates
    74) Tearing up socks
    75) Throwing socks against the wall
    76) Archery
    77) Rock climbing
    78) Take up a new hobby
    79) Organize bills and such
    80) Cook a meal
    81) Go out for ice cream
    82) Buy a stuffed animal (I collect Beanie Babies)
    83) Look at pretty things-like flowers or artwork
    84) Create Something
    85) Pray
    86) Trow socks against the wall
    87) Make a list of blessings in your life
    88) Read the Bible
    89) Go to a friend's house
    90) Take up fencing
    91) Watch an old, happy movie
    92) Call a Help hot line or your Therapist
    93) Talk to someone close to you that knows
    94) Throw a temper-tantrum
    95) Hit things-other than yourself
    96) Ride a bicycle
    97) Polish silver or jewelery
    98) Gardening or watering house plants
    99) Memorizing German poetry (silly, but works!)
    100) CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!
    101) Feed the ducks or birds or squirrels, etc.
    102) Draw on the walls
    103) Play with face paint
    104) Do very glamorous make-up
    105) Color with crayons
    106) Memorize a novel or play or song
    107) Put on boots and STAMP
    108) Stretch
    109) Find butterflies
    110) Watch fish
    111) Come up with baby names (even if you're not pregnant
    112) Make mashed potatoes
    113) Make a tape of your favorite songs
    114) Name all of your stuffed animals
    115) Go SHOPPING!!!!
    116) Get into my PJ's and just veg.
    117) Buy cheap teddy bears and take out anger on them instead of self.
    118) Throw everything (except glass) into the center
    119) Go to a loud concert
    120) Play the 15 minute game (say you can't cut for 15 minutes, and when the time is up, start again)
    121) Plan your wedding / prom
    122) Hunt for stuff on eBay (you can find ANYTHING there)
    123) Alphabetize your books
    124) Hunt for your perfect home in the paper
    125) Take up Tai Chi
    126) Try to make as many words out of your full name as possible, then do your friends names)
    127) count ceiling tiles/lights
    128) go clubbing
    129) search ridiculous things on the web
    130) Color coordinate your wardrobe
    131) do a home tan on yourself
    132) sort all your photographs
    133) colour (or scribble) over the pretty women in magazines
    134) plan a dinner party
    135) play with a slinky
    136) but yourself some toys and play
    137) start collecting something
    138) get a tattoo / piercing
    139) play video/computer games
    140) do a trash clean at your local park
    141) Play on a swing set
    142) go out and perform a random act of kindness for someone
    143) call up an old friend
    144) write yourself an "I love you because" letter
    145) put on fake nails
    145) try to build something
    146) re-arrange your house
    147) go to a public place and people watch
    148) go through all your old stuff
    149) go bargain - hunting
    150) smile at at least five people (you usually end up smiling genuinely yourself.)
    151) go to the zoo and rename all the animals.

    Now again this topic is very sensitive and some lives could be at stake. Please read all of the rules and if you are not willing to be helpful
    please do NOT post here as this is a place to come for help. Not to receive further grief.

    If you have any questions/concerns feel free to PM me or another staff member. We are always here to help.


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